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Fresh Vibes: Playing it Forward

January’s your opportunity to playfully build up your good karma quotient.

Happy New Year! January is our fresh start for the next twelve months on the planet together.

Perhaps you’ve guessed, Michelle and I are optimists. Pollyanas even, intentionally seeking out and generating vitality. You’ve heard the expression “pay it forward”? Maybe you’ve seen the movie starring Kevin Spacey? It’s the concept of “repaying” acts of kindness with good deeds to others instead of back to your original benefactor. The idea is old, but the words may first have been voiced by Lily Hardy Hammond in her 1916 book In the Garden of Delight. Lily was a reformer and progressive Southern thinker for her time.

Pay it forward. It’s a philosophy that has been in our human psyche for centuries: What goes around comes around.  Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. And karma, action that causes the entire cycle of cause and effect, or simply, the fruit that results. I once read, even a smile to strangers and those you pass by can change the world.

This January, I’m putting a slight spin on “pay it forward”. I’m encouraging my family to act and live by these words with “play”.  My kids can certainly benefit from learning the rules of cause and effect.  But I think they’ll benefit even more, if we’re all having fun and getting inspired while we create good karma. We’re “Playing it forward" and already I’ve felt the benefits of heeding these simple
thoughts daily.

I had my handyman over yesterday and he moaned he’d been out of work and was worried about making rent. I suggested a business opportunity that could bring him new clients. He loved it and went away excited.  I was lunching with a high school friend at a fancy Laguna Beach restaurant where the world looks good to everyone. The occasion was business-related, but when he described some pretty severe challenges he was encountering in his personal life, my thoughts turned to my resources and I offered three.  He texted me later that evening with a big thank you for my support.  I know he and I will conduct our business as we had envisioned even though we talked personally most of the lunch.

To make “Playing it forward” really easy, I have invested in a 50-card starter set of “Karma Coaching Cards” from www.karmacoachingcards.com. You can even find them used at Amazon.com. Each card suggests a single “action” you can take to further your random acts of kindness and compassion game. My first card suggested that I: “Introduce someone new into your circle of friends.” So knowing I was having a business meeting over coffee, I brought a new friend and introduced her to my existing friend. Karma card one was done!

Stephanie


Stephanie Mendoza and Michelle Wells are two Belmont Shore
parents, Type A Volunteers, as well as small businesswomen who are interested
in finding healthy food and healthy choices for their families and friends.

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Panglonymous May 16, 2013 at 02:38 pm
If the medium is the message, what is Patch 2 saying?Read More http://missionviejo.patch.com/groups/opinion/p/this-boards-for-you-whiners
Panglonymous May 16, 2013 at 01:22 pm
Got me an image stuck into the profile peephole after a little wrangling. Pretty much an abstractRead More at this size but what the hey, I know what it is and it pleases me... :-)
Nancy Wride (Editor) May 15, 2013 at 12:43 pm
Nice. Yesterday's Playlist was led by 'Livin' on a Prayer' :D
Panglonymous May 15, 2013 at 12:25 pm
Good morning, good morning ... good! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lzhSbBftWtk
Mike Ruehle May 15, 2013 at 03:04 pm
Long Beach Police Commander Jay Johnson is now the 3-year chief of the Newport Beach departmentRead More described by Orange County media as, "Police Department Management Is a Cesspool of Adultery, Lies & Retaliation Against Honest Officers." http://blogs.ocweekly.com/navelgazing/2012/07/newport_beach_police_departmen.php
Nancy Wride (Editor) May 15, 2013 at 09:18 am
Thanks, John.
John B. Greet May 12, 2013 at 10:00 am
Perhaps Ruehle should learn just a little more about all the things the Auditor's Office *does* do,Read More before whining and complaining about all of the things it doesn't. http://www.cityauditorlauradoud.com/office-of-the-auditor.shtml Beyond routinely identifying many areas of waste, fraud, and abuse in City government, the Auditor's office conducts a great deal of non audit-related services each year. Ruehle's comments seem to connote a belief that City Auditor Doud is somehow responsible for investigating and reporting on every bad decision the Council makes or every instance of questionable affiliation found throughout City government. She is not and even if she were, Long Beach taxpayers do not provide her with sufficient resources to do so. Despite that Ms. Doud is, herself, a citywide elected official, and despite her office's consistently excellent work-product, she can only fact-find and report her findings. Beyond her own office, she has no authority to mandate changes in the way other City officials conduct the people's business. Since her initial election in 2006, Ms. Doud's office has uncovered -and reported upon- millions and millions of dollars worth of fraud, waste, and abuse in City government. That's not sufficient for Ruehle who, despite all his complaints, will never consider running for that office himself and showing us all how much better *he* could do.
John B. Greet May 12, 2013 at 09:39 am
"...this article is saying that the fact that the city of Long Beach extorts millions ofRead More dollars from its residents in the form of RIDICULOUS parking tickets and charges outrageous fines for them is to be applauded?" No. There is actually nothing in this article that says that but please enjoy these lovely parting gifts.
Mike Ruehle May 12, 2013 at 06:56 am
What has City Auditor Laura Doud done since her re-election other than support anything wanted byRead More Foster & Delong. Maybe people should ask: 1. Why didn't Doud audit the city's transaction where city owned valuable port property was exchanged for swamp land? There certainly was enough controversy about the value of each asset. Wasn't it her job as the taxpayer's representative to look into it? 2. Why didn't Doud audit the amount of taxpayer's money used to support the 2nd & PCH project and the Home Depot project before that. The city was supposed to be compensated by the Developers for ALL of their costs, including meeting costs. However, that is NOT what happened. Millions of taxpayer's dollars where gifted to certain politically connected developers. 3. Why hasn't Doud audited the $1 dollar per year no-bid contracts of valuable city taxpayer owned ocean front property to the Long Beach Yacht Club, Alamitos Bay Yacht Club and other exclusive members only clubs for the wealthy and politically connected do determine what the value of an alternative use might be? 4. Why hasn't Doud audited the exclusive, no-bid, for-profit lease of city owned waterfront property to Steve Conley's and John Hancock's BANCAP company that has made those two men tremendously wealthy at the expense of Long Beach taxpayers? Doud started out with a bang when first elected. Since then, she has been a crony for anything Foster and DeLong related.