One of the drawbacks of being a Super-Villain is the perpetually unrealistic expectations. Sure, taking over, ruling or destroying the world sounds like a hoot but how many times have you ever really pulled that off? That would be zero. So when it comes to dating, I advise scaling things back a little.
That means the main squeeze of your arch-enemy is NEVER GOING TO WANT TO HAVE SEXY TIME WITH YOU. Read that again, I'll wait...OK. See, the things that attract these women to the good guys are attributes you are surely lacking. Honesty. Loyalty. Chiseled good looks. And that's before we get to super strength, speed and any other power that can be sexually exploited.
Now you may think, "Hey, I'm a handsome guy" and you may not be wrong. In fact, there is a segment of the female population that is totally digging your uber-Bad Boy vibe. But it's not going to be your main rival's hump bunny. Ever. I know what you're thinking. Go ahead and say it. "Kidnapping and mind control. Then it's all leather. lube and good times in the Hall of Doom!"
This is a recipe for heartache and an embarrassing beatdown when she inevitably fights off your spell and her boyfriend shows up and ragdolls you into submission while she laughs in your face. Then she keeps the leather outfit on and they fly away to have super radical ninja monkey sex. Save yourself the bruises and the tears and adjust your expectations. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.